Good grief I’m 27.
It’s the time of year again where I list all of the lessons learned in the past year. This past year has been one massive upheaval. My life turned upside down French Prince style and I am just now starting to find my feet again. Sort of.
- Ask for help when you need it
I am pretty bad for letting things truly pile on top of me until I have an eventual breakdown and surprise everybody with statements on just how bad things have gotten. I struggle to let people help me. My pride is definitely one of my worst traits and once I finally let that go and asked the people that had been trying to help to be there for me, my life improved 100%. Things were still difficult but I wasn’t alone.
- Take the risk
As much as I talk about how difficult this year has been, I have found myself in the ideal job for me. I love it. I love the people I work with, I love the work I do, I never resent going to work. I love it so much I’m not even fussed that it’s another 3 months until I have a decent amount of time off. I got this job because I took a risk. I didn’t actually think I’d even get to the interview stage and here I am, 2 interviews and 8 months after applying, working for a great company.
- Stay busy
This isn’t for everybody but for me, staying busy keeps my head above water. Staying creative, product and sociable is so important, especially when times are tough
- … but acknowledge when you need a break, and take it
- Explore more
My friend Greig and I have been friends for 10 years but it was only this year that we decided to start actually going on mini adventures together. We spent hours walking around the Falls of Clyde, we did the audio tour of Doune Castle (highly recommended!), we’ve explored the fields around Greig’s local area and most recently, we visited Pollok Park for the first time. We have some more exciting adventures planned for next year, even a wee trip away overnight together! These days out are ideal for blowing away cobwebs.
- What you want matters
I think it’s a millenial thing. We’ve only ever known recession in our adult lives, really, so we spend a lot of time being grateful for what we have and in terms of material things, that is excellent. Relationships, romantic or otherwise, not so much. What I want from a friendship, a relationship, fuck it – a kiss! Matters.
- There’s strength in being vulnerable
I can’t really expand on this as I have a big piece planned on it but seriously, I’m not ashamed of being soft, vulnerable, anything. It’s bravery.
- “How people treat other people is a direct reflection of how they feel about themselves.” ― Paulo Coelho
- More people care than you ever think
- It’s never too late to take the steps to become who you want to be
- It’s okay to be sad
It is no secret that I was sad this year. I still am a lot of the time. I have this awful habit of trying to push feelings away but recently, I’ve accepted that sometimes, I just am sad. And that’s okay.
- “I’ll keep you safe, you keep me strong”
- Let people look after you
It never occurred to me after my breakup that my friends actually wanted to look after me. I felt like a burden on them. I was sad enough, why put them through it, too? Turns out they wanted to help. They wanted to hold my hand through dark times, they wanted me to be myself around them, even if myself was nothing short of a broken mess. Through all of this heartache and sadness, I’ve never felt alone. The outpouring of love towards me has been overwhelming in the very best way. Allowing people to look after me, saved me.
- If nothing else, Tinder is good for the ego. I’ve still got it. Sorta.
- There is no such thing as too much Sangria.
- Make plans. Make plans. Make plans.
Making plans really helps me. Knowing that there are things to look forward to, things to focus on help. As do countdown timer apps.
- Write often
Even if I know it won’t be published, even if I’m not 100% confident in what I’m writing, I write.
- If somebody sends you a link on OkCupid, don’t open it
… Seriously. Blegh. I should know better.
- Better yet, just delete your OkCupid account
- Have confidence in your decisions
From TV shows to jobs, owning my decisions has been SO worthwhile. I am learning to trust my intuition more.
- The Mountain Goats are underrated and are great for so many occasions
- Home is where the cats are
- Treat. Yo. Self.
- “Apathy is a cancer” – B Dolan
With 2016 being so very… 2016, it’s tempting to give in to apathy. God knows it’d be easier. But I refuse. I’m angry, I’m despairing and I’m determined. I can only do so much but if I can make tiny changes, in the tiny space of the world that I occupy, it’s something.
- There are not enough candles and fairy lights in the world to satiate my hunger
- Some people come into your life and are exactly what you need at that specific time. And that’s enough.
- If you can stay hopeful, you’re indestructible.